Okay, so Tuesday of last week, Kate Beaton put up a comment via her Twitter handle in 4 parts:
dear internet, you are well meaning, but I’d like to make a point.
when you tell a female creator you like her work so much you want to marry her and have her babies, you’re not doing anyone any favors
first of all, as cute as it sounds in your head, it’s a shitty, disrespectful ‘compliment.’ No one makes comics looking for sexual attention
secondly, by doing so you invite others to critique that person’s works based on their looks, which is uncomfortable, sexist and unfair.
There was a blizzard of responses (including a bunch of negative comments by males, apparently) that sparked a wider discussion about sexism in comics, and on Friday, Gabby Schulz put up a very funny comic about the whole thing.
It has 666 comments as of this writing (no joke!) and they make for some bracing/revealing/funny/depressing reading; sometimes devolving into YouTube-level depravity.
It’s important, before you open Pandora’s Box and go to the comic that you understand a few things that seem to confuse people:
1. Gabby is a guy (who sometimes goes by “Ken Dahl,” though that’s actually a pen name).
2. The comic is fiction. Also funny. It’s not meant to be picked apart like a court transcript.
3. Beaton is right.
It may be true that men and women have traditionally adopted different styles of communication and there are some men who might have reacted differently if roles had been reversed, but now that you know it’s offensive to say such things, it’s kind of ridiculous to argue the point.
It offends. Now you know. Act accordingly.
It’s not rocket science.
[Edit to Add: As some of our comments have pointed out, the ‘babies’ line was just an example, and a mild one at that. There have been far worse, and it’s a pattern reported by several other female cartoonists.]